Greedy People Surround Us
So it has been a couple weeks since I have posted here. I apologize. Sometimes real life just gets in the way. In this case, it was more stress than anything else. Between a big project that I had to get done at work and other stress... lots and lots of stress... I've just not been in the mood to be online much
What's this about stress????
Well, like I said, I am swamped at work. Also, I had two cats die in the past few weeks, the one after having spent a week at the vet's trying to get her stabilized. :( Also, I previously wrote about how I became the crazy cat lady. Well, my main stress mostly stems from that situation.
Despite the fact that I blog semi-privately, I am still going to keep this story generic and the 'players' anonymous. So bear with me... I will try to keep this short and to the point.
When my cousin died, I was her sole beneficiary. This came as no shock to anyone who knew her well because she and I have always been very close. No one cared, and no one complained about my being the beneficiary... except for one relative. He has been throwing a stink about "not getting his share" and has even complained to other relatives about it. They just laugh at him. Apparently no one told him you don't get to collect money off people when they die simply because you are a (not close) relative.
Now, here is the real kicker. This relative has now started taking his disappointment out on me. Yep, the green eyed monster has surfaced! He has 'forgotten' to invite me to a family picnic, sent me snide emails, and even unfriended me from Facebook. Now, I could understand being angry with me had I actually done something to him. However, the only thing I've done in this case is EXIST.
It gets better.... this relative's wife has actually hinted around to both me and my parents that I could make the situation better if only I would give them some of my money! (I will give you a moment to stop laughing now.) So, apparently now I need pay off my family in order for them to treat me with respect? Interesting enough, this relative acted very much the same last year when another relative died and didn't leave him anything in his will. Personally, I think that is a very sad way to live your life. Call me crazy, but I'd rather love people for who they are, not what they can give me.
There is a lot I would like to say to this relative, but I am forcing myself to take the high road. But with the holidays coming up I am going to have some interactions with this person. How would you handle it? My first instinct is to simply avoid the problem and keep my distance but, as my grandmother is still living, I feel I need to try to keep things as normal as possible so as not to upset her. The problem is, the stress and worry about this situation is starting to upset me in a negative way, and that is something I can not just sit back and ignore.
So I am looking for any advice I can get. Do you have greedy relatives? How would you deal with people such as this? Should I write a book about this experience, sell millions of copies, and have a good laugh at their expense? :)